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4.5
After the painful demise of a long relationship, I went through many books—bound and ebooks both—along with numerous websites and youtube talks. I did all the recommended things, like "no contact" and getting rid of reminders of my ex around my home. I worked hard at recovering, yet months after the breakup, I was still having a terrible time moving forward and I felt stuck in a state of despair and depression. Finally, completely by chance, I heard about "The Breakup Bible" and ordered it. It has been the greatest help ever and I cannot recommend it highly enough. Now I know why my ex and I broke up, and also why I have had such a hard time recovering from the breakup. I am still rereading parts of the book, primarily Part II, the section on Understanding, and this is the information that is changing my life. In fact, I am going to pursue more understanding of "attachment theory," as it relates to me, with a therapist versed in the theory, because it rang so true for me. I realized that every partner I have ever picked has had a version of the same issue, clear back to my first (and only) marriage. It wasn't apparent to me until now, because each version was so different (there are many, many ways to abandon someone, including things like the silent treatment, getting drunk, and actually walking out, to name a few). I don't want to repeat my lifelong selection of partners ever again, and I am grateful to have finally gotten some real and useful information, instead of all the fluff that is floating around.I found the book to be well written and easy to read, and it was also somehow comforting and gentle while presenting hard truths. I believe it will help you whether you had a breakup or a divorce, and whether you have children or not. Good luck to you!
